NURTURING HOUSE HUSBANDS
Photo : Nalis Book Club, Princes Town commemorates International Women's Day
Poet/Author, Arjune Teeluck called for the nurturing of "house-husbands" as equal partners to housewives.
Speaking at a function held at NALIS, Princes Town on March 8th, in observation of International Women's Day, he said that by encouraging men to take up housekeeping, women would be given critical time needed to ‘socialize’.
"Let her participate in programs that would give her the freedom to peruse an ever- progressive march towards socio-economic independence, " he said.
He told the celebrants that husbands would receive the honor and privilege of providing personalized care for babies as well as household chores that has so far been reserved for housewives.
"Give men the choice and woman an opportunity," he said.
He called on men to organize celebrations/functions that celebrate women.
"Next year I hope to see as many men as women fully participating in such activity," he said adding that ongoing dicsussions should continue among a mixed gathering of both men and women to fully explore gender equality.
Teeluck said that throughout recorded history, literature has systematically propagated a culture of bias against women.
"For example, the notion that God is masculine and His first human creation was male and so too, all his prophets lend credence to this argument," he noted.
He said that most leadership roles, whether in religion of any other social institution were dominated by men.
"I often wonder why women assume the title or name of their husbands rather than the opposite."
He went on to say that he has a daughter and he wanted her to enjoy socio-economic independence. He said that he also wanted her to enjoy individual freedom in a society that does not deny her these privileges.
"However, notwithstanding these considerations, it is indeed gratifying to note that this trend is rapidly changing as more and more women are assuming leadership roles in every area of human development and discipline," Teeluck said.
He pointed to a time when husbands would decide the social or other activities in which their wives would participate.
"This norm took a leap with women making choices approved or permitted by their husband. Today however, most wives would inform their husbands of their social and other endeavours and while their husband’s opinion is valued, a spouse’s permission-approval is no longer necessary."
He said that considering the age-old norm which prescribed the primary role of the woman as being that of performing a social prescription, requiring her to fulfil the primary role of wife and mother. Girls, therefore, were essentially groomed into becoming good house-wives or home-makers. Home-maker being a recent term intended to lend appropriate integrity to the invaluable role she plays in the social well-being and advancement of the society. Girls would be married as soon as possible, have children and give them the requisite attention and care they needed. With this full-time commitment placed exclusively upon her shoulders, she had little or no time for social activities or to peruse careers so as to provide her with some kind of socioeconomic independence.
He ended his presentation with a poem titled, "TRIBUTE TO WOMANHOOD".
Give birth to baby girls who become women who become wives and mothers
Give birth to baby boys who become men who become husbands and fathers
And because each is sister or brother
Son or daughter
Wife or husband
Father or mother
Each in her eyes each is king and queen
Prophet and prophetess
Goddess and God
NO TEST: NO COMPARISON: NO CONTEST!
From conception to birth, but for a lifetime of selfless nurturing, motherhood answers this sublime cosmic cause and call: And while it may be argued that no one is perfect. Remember always that motherhood remains ever beyond reproach!
The program was organized by the Princes Town Book Club in conjunction with the Realize-Mandingo Women’s Group and Nalis Public Library, Princes Town.